(Photo Courtesy: The Gospel Coalition)
I used to compare myself to my stay-at-home mom friend Janica. When I went back to work, I no longer had the time to cook and clean on a regular basis, surf the Internet for the latest baby trends or attend Mommy and Me activities. I packed my diaper bag with the bare essentials, not extras. So when Janica and I took our daughters to the zoo, I envied her. She squeezed germ killer into our hands before we ate lunch–she packed a home cooked meal for her daughter, and I ordered chicken nuggets and fries for mine. She sanitized the table and high chairs and laid out disposable place mats all before I even sat down and said grace. She also shared her daughter’s snacks. I packed one type; she had four. Her daughter matched from head to toe and had freshly braided hair. Earlier, I rushed to get my daughter out of the house and put on shoes that kinda, sorta matched and fixed the fly aways on her Afro puff as we waited in line at the admissions gate.
When I expressed my insecurities about not measuring up as a mother to Janica, she put me at ease. She told me she missed being a part of the corporate world and probably envied me at times. She looked forward to hearing my stories about work and dating. We laughed for being somewhat jealous of each other and wanting to swap places, at least for a little while. We realized that we support each other. I am her accountability partner and ask her about her business plans. I invite her to dinner parties, where she can dress up and remember that she’s not only a mom but a woman. I also volunteer to babysit, to give her alone time with her hubby. She supports me by reminding me that I am a great mom and passing on the latest information about raising babies. She made me think of five reasons why every working mom needs a stay-at-home bestie.
1. She Volunteers to Babysit
When I need a sitter at short notice, Janica watched my daughter for an entire day! She even made a home cooked meal of meatballs, macaroni and green beans. Throughout the day, she sent updates and photos to my phone.
2. She Didin’t Mind That My Daughter isn’t on a Schedule
When her daughter took a nap, my daughter watched a soap opera. Janica didn’t mind that my little girl isn’t on a strict schedule and allowed her to eventually fall asleep on the couch instead of the playpen.
3. She Makes Martha Stewart Look Like an Amateur
Janica stayed up the night before and cut out shapes for an arts and craft project for the girls. When I picked my daughter
4. She Shares the Latest Toddler Trends
Janica is a wealth of infant information. She has time to read articles, compare prices and try out the latest toys and products. As a result, I purchased this stackable snack container.
5. She Reminds You That You Are a Good Mother
She lets you know that being a good mom is about spending quality time, not a quantity of time, with your child. She’s full of ideas, like this ball play, to have fun with your little one.
Hey DFTM Fam–At the end of the day, whether you are married or single, a career woman or domestic diva, we all love are children and must find ways to support each other in our journey through motherhood! In what ways do you and your mommy friends help each other out?